What are the mommy wars, you might ask? The term refers to the judgements that pass between mothers who make different parenting decisions.
Breastfeeding vs formula feeding.
Disposable diapers vs cloth diapers.
Attachment parenting. Sleep training. Crying it out. Co-sleeping. Bed sharing. Immunizations. The list goes on!
It even starts in pregnancy. Natural birth vs medicated birth vs cesarean birth. HBACS. VBACS. Home birth. Hospital birth. Midwives, doctors, obstetricians. How are you to know what to choose?!
Motherhood is hard enough as it is without having to face the criticism and guilt that comes from doing things that are different from others.
We've all felt it. That unpleasant feeling that comes when you are talking to a mom who strongly believes in something that you are very against. Let's be frank, there has most likely been a time that you have looked over at that mom in the park, or the child in the grocery store and thought, "Oh my, I can't believe she's doing that", or "Can you believe that, I would never....".
Just like that.. Judgement passed!
We are all guilty of it.
So what does it come down to? You have to make the decisions that are right for you and your family. Only YOU know what those are. There is no right or wrong way. Become a part of the change... It starts with us!
Support each other and be happy for the moms who have found what it is that works for them.
Check out the campaign for Judgement-Free Motherhood here: